Saturday, March 22, 2014

Countdown to Confidence: How to Be Confident With What You Wear

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Hi there! This post was supposed to go up a few weeks ago, but it’s such an important one in this “Countdown to Confidence” series and is the last one, so I didn’t want to rush it. Today, I’ll be sharing my tips on how to be confident with what you wear. Of course, it sounds simple enough, but it’s definitely easier said than done and takes a bit of time, especially if you’re a pretty insecure person.

Here are links to the other posts if you haven't already read them: my story, getting started, faking it 'til you make it, skin problems, and starting a healthy lifestyle.

I used to be like that. I used to get really worried about what people thought of me, what they thought of what I said, wore, the way I acted. Basically, I was constantly freaking myself out because of all these insecurities and it did not make me a very fun person to be around.

Then, one summer, everything changed. I didn’t bite back my laughter, hold back opinions in conversations (unless they were offensive, then I’d keep them to myself), and I wore whatever the hell suited my fancy. I gained confidence and it pretty much changed my life.

  • Something I found really helpful on this little journey to being confident with what I wear is repeating to myself, over and over again that it doesn’t matter what others think. At first, it was just to calm my nerves a bit, but after a while, I believed the little mantra. If they don’t like your outfit, well, honestly, who cares? If you like it, that’s all that matter. What you wear is a direct extension of who you are, so flaunt it!
  • But what do you like? That’s also another really important aspect. Figure out what you like and stick to it. Figuring out your personal style and sticking to it can really help with this because that way, you have something to really be confident in. If that made any sense. If you're still a bit hazy on your personal style, here are a few posts to get you started (how to find it, the accompanying quiz, and about my own).
  • Actions speak louder than words. In other words, don’t slouch. So keep your chin up, back straight, and walk with that posture. If you act like you’re confident, others will believe it, and sooner or later, you will, too. Basically, fake it ‘til you make it!
  • Another important thing is where are you supposed to look? Sometimes, I feel really awkward in public situations when I just don’t know where I’m supposed to look. After a bit of trial and error, I’ve figured out that if I’m wearing something bold and adventurous and am not feeling my best that day (or when I started to take more risks), looking between people’s eyes (like during a staring contest to win) or slightly above their heads or between them really helps.
  • You could also just look them right dead in the eye. It sounds scary, but it gives you this exhilarating feeling that will surely make you proud when you think about it after.
  • My last bit of advice is to take a risk. Now that probably sounds really scary and counterproductive, but I assure you, it helps. A LOT. Just go out wearing something really bold, adventurous, whatever that may be for you and that is still true to your style and wear that with confidence. You might be terrified, but what’s the worst that could happen? Okay, you could get a few weird looks, but at the end of the day, like I said before, if you were proud of the outfit, that is all that matters.

Just don’t forget that there’s a difference between breaking dress codes and being bold, though!

Which tips did you find helpful? What helps you feel more confident while wearing something bold? Which post was your favourite out of all the "Countdown to Confidence" posts? Leave your comments below!

Thank you so much for reading!
- J


  1. this is such an interesting post! I used to be really confident in what I wore, but the last few years I tend play safe rather than take risks which is such a shame as it means some of the clothes which I see and love, I'm not brave enough to actually wear in public, great advice though!

    1. Thank you, Charlotte! I'm glad you enjoyed the post and found it somewhat helpful. :D - J